If you are suffering from the overload work and responsibilities, then you need to take care of yourself and set some boundaries and start to say No.
This is basically the advice you are given if you complain about your mental, emotional and even physical health, while you are running around to please everyone around you and neglecting yourself.
Take care of yourself… But how? Especially if you are a woman with a family and business to take care of.
So setting up boundaries and saying No, is the most repeated advice for taking care of yourself. From my point of view, I found it hard to say No. But it never came to my mind what this attached article highlights. It stresses the difference between askers and Guessers. It basically advices that we should distinguish between the asker (who is asking but does not expect a yes answer), and a Guesser (who expects a YES answer).
Does this makes it easier to say NO? Well it does help me out though.
What about that you lose weight if you start to smell certain things? Cool yah?
This article caught my attention since it highlights the results of a research study. The study explored if certain smells would affect our battle with losing weight, off course beside diet and exercise. The study found that certain smells such as garlic and onions would work its magic and sends messages to the brain that we are full. No wonder when I cook I don’t eat much…
The study is promising but there is a need for more expanded research on such topics.
i have been thinking outside the PhD materials (i know…not normal, LOL), and would like to share few thoughts with you, I would like to know what u think also.
i went to bed yesterday reading an article (i’ll try to post here later) about being yourself. just act as you like. forget about what people expect from you, what society expects from you, and forget about the standards that you put according to your labels. the article goes on to stress the fact how difficult would be to understand and know what YOU REALLY LIKE, where frameworks disappear and you have to create ur own….hmmmmm…difficult? oh yes. every time, i feel down my sons ask me to do what i really like. i answer back: i donot know any more what i like, i forget what i like to do, and i find it hard to find what i like in the middle of my duties as a wife, a mother, a PhD candidate, a citizen, a friend, a researcher, a….. and the list goes on and on. the idea of “i have to finish my dissertation at the expected time and in the perfect form” dominates my life and blinds me from living completely. being perfect for the labels i named myself with, stress me more than making me happy, and now what? but hey, isnot doing a PhD is kind of self discovery? is it what should be something i really really like to do? well it is, but it looks there are other elements into it. i believe we should not let the PhD controlling us, but we should have the upper hand. but how? people would say: being organized, know your materials, have a schedule …etc etc….do all of these work for you? do you really work by dead line? knowing you are not acting alone, so it is not really only your time. it is the supervisor’s, the people u r collecting data from, your committees…and so on.. however, it would be helpful to talk to other PhD students, take longer real break away from writing to come back and be able to see the gaps, have different of activities, and do not disconnect from real life..and do what you really really like to do without explaining, for example if you like to paint then go ahead and find your inner self…..do you have other suggestions? please share with us….